As a Rakgadi myself I just want to come in peace and warn you of the different kinds of subtle bullies.
- Helpful bullies – they are always advising and showing you how to do things; be careful, it is always their way and they will slowly kill your self esteem bit by bit until you are fully assimilated
- Superstitious bullies- they will always threaten you that if you don’t do this or that, your ancestors, witches or God will do this and that to you or your children and that is their way of beating you to submission
- Passive Aggressive bullies – they shut you out of their lives and sometimes the whole clan if you don’t tow their line, leaving you desperate to sell your soul to them at a discount to belong
- Reputation bullies – they will make up stories or write stories about you that you will have no appetite to correct because you are ‘not petty’. But believe me they will succeed in painting you black because people no longer have time to verify or question- all news is newsworthy.
As for the normal bullies, don’t face them head on, you can never out-bully a bully, they have been trained from birth at most and arrive into adulthood as champion bullies.
Akere 🤷🏿♂️